Single Parent the term perhaps should be listed in medical dictionaries with a definition that goes something like this:
Single Parent: - An affliction identified by many different and unique circumstances and is contracted most commonly through divorce although can be contracted by single individuals. In documented cases only one individual from marriage can contract this affliction and only in marriages where children are a product of marriage. Affliction generally is contracted by the female partner of the divorce but under certain circumstances the male partner can contract this affliction.
Symptoms: Headaches, Nausea, Vomiting, Extreme Fatigue, Depression, Guilt, Memory Loss, Gray Hair, Financial Distress, Loneliness, Feelings of Dejection, "Have No Life" Syndrome and other strange unidentified symptoms may occur.
Term of Affliction: Can range from months to multiple years - Case studies indicate that in most cases period of affliction will exceed 20 years
Treatment: Treatment consist of multiple sources including extended treatment for depression and anger management. In some cases physical exercise and meditation are helpful in maintaining proper blood pressure and stress levels. Many cases require an extended psychotropic drug regiment. In a few cases "over the counter" drug treatments have been successful in treating minor symptoms such as Headache, Nausea and Vomiting. Alcohol in minor dosage daily in some cases has been known to have a calming effect. But Explicit warning has been issued that excessive use of Alcohol can be habit forming and dangerous to parent and children's health.
Affliction or not, being a Single Parent can be a personal, individual and in many cases a lonely life where each day blends with the next until the parent is drawn into a continuous cycle of of appointments, schedules, and commitments. Without thought or praise, the single parent carries out mundane chores at home, cooking, cleaning, laundry, homework, school events, appointments and sometimes dreaded emergencies while attempting to balancing work to provide financial support. In addition, many single parents must work multiple jobs to earn enough income to properly care for their children. This cycle continues, often leaving the parent feeling like the pet hamster running in circles on his treadmill; even he wondering when you will get around to changing his bedding and leaving fresh food.
One might use terms like responsibility, duty, honor, love or obligation to describe why the single parent toils daily to give their children the best quality of life possible. Admittedly, these traits supply needed energy to aid both, single and dual, but dual parents can alternate pressure and stress and allow each to seek a personal life while maintaining their children's well being.
The single parent lacks this shared support and can easily slip into depression, anxiety or other harmful states. It is important for Single Parents to learn to take their mental temperature or monitor their feelings. The parent must take time, if only minutes in meditation, or a hot bath, to access their mental state and look for harmful symptoms.
Lack of a social life can be a Single Parent's worst enemy. Often, after separation or divorce it is difficult for the parent to put themselves back into circulation. Problems single daters' don't understand or encounter such as baby sitting, extra money required for social activities, even unexpected colds or flu are routine problems for the Single Parent to deal with to get time for themselves. This makes dating difficult and can push the parent to stay home instead of seeking a social life.
The Single Parent first must recognize that he/she must stay healthy, physically and mentally, to be able to give the children the care they need. Creating a social life for yourself is paramount and if done will keep you at top shape to care for your family. Sounds like a hard job....It is...but I failed to mention why we Single Parents do what we do, the things that make it all worth it.
That hug you get when you don't expect it, or that rare thank you for making a special breakfast. The I love you's when you tuck your loved ones into bed. Perhaps that special picture you snap in the early morning after a hard night's play! Yes LOVE makes being a Single Parent an Affliction, I wouldn't trade for all the riches in the world!